DIVORCE & FAMILY MEDIATION
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FIND THE RIGHT WORDS TO RESOLVE YOUR DISPUTES
Mediation brings together two or more individuals for a short period to develop a language and dialogue to solve disputes. Because the process can be successfully completed in a single two-hour session, mediation offers a great, cost-effective alternative to pursuing months of intensive counseling.
DIVORCE MEDIATION | Divorce can be a difficult and painful experience, with agreements seemingly impossible. Through professionally guided conversation and targeted problem-solving techniques, divorce mediation helps resolve difficult issues in a safe and fair environment. Common divorce-related disagreements include how to co-parent in the best interest of your children, how to divide assets fairly, and how to redefine the boundaries of a post-divorce relationship.
FAMILY MEDIATION | Family conflict can be one of the most difficult situations of disagreement because, for whatever reasons, we tend to feel the most passionate about issues that concern the ones we love. Family mediation can be helpful for parents and teenagers having trouble connecting or coming up with a workable set of boundaries while living under the same roof. It might also be helpful in situations of sibling rivalry or disagreements between parents.
HIGH CONFLICT MEDIATION
COLORADO CFI specializes in high conflict mediation. When resolutions seem hard, there may be other challenging factors at play, such as specific mental health conditions or other family crises effecting the relationship. As a family and divorce mediator trained in mental health care themes, Julia can quickly identify underlying barriers in order to provide the most effective mediation in the most difficult of situations.
THE MEDIATION PROCESS
A divorce or family mediation session typically lasts two to three hours, with short phone interviews with the mediator before the process begins. While this is the average time needed, it can sometimes take longer in the form of several mediation sessions. At the close of each mediation, both parties will typically sign an agreement they helped to create in an effort to reconcile their disagreements. The entire process is divided into three phases:
1) PAPERWORK AND PAYMENT | Participants complete mediation intake paperwork (available to download above), returning it to Colorado CFI by mail or email prior to the mediation session. Each party provides a $210 retainer payment before the process begins.
2) INTERVIEWS | Once the mediator receives completed paperwork and retainer payments, each party will have a brief 20-minute individual phone interview with the mediator. The mediator then reach out to both parties by email to schedule a time for the group session.
3) MEDIATION | A two-to-three-hour mediation session occurs in a private conference room in Colorado CFI's offices (2810 North Speer Blvd). While this is usually all that is needed to complete a successful mediation, sometimes it's necessary to schedule a few more hours at a different time to resolve all issues. If requested, a final memorandum of understanding ("MOU") document will be drawn up by the mediator with input from from all participants. Both parties will leave the session with a copy of their co-created memorandum.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT DURING THE MEDIATION?
Mediation is intended to create a suitable environment for disputing individuals to come together and communicate in pursuit of a mutually agreeable resolution to their conflicts. The mediator is impartial, meaning he or she does not take sides or have any vested interest in the outcome of the mediation. The mediator's role is simply facilitative, helping to guide and balance communication between the parties. Thus, what you should expect during the course of a mediation is to play an active role in expressing your personal needs and interests, and coming up with alternative suggestions and solutions to disagreements.
You should also know that the mediator will enforce certain behavioral expectations during the course of a mediation, such as engaging in respectful communication (i.e. taking turns, not interrupting, refraining from using punitive language). The mediator will ask that you be open, honest, and sincere while bargaining in good faith with one another.
IS MEDIATION CONFIDENTIAL?
Yes, mediation is a confidential activity and all parties involved are responsible for keeping the confidentiality. Anything discussed in the mediation is to be kept between the parties and mediator. Any extra notes taken by the mediator will be destroyed after the Memorandum of Understanding is created and agreed upon within the mediation. There are some exceptions to confidentiality, all of which are listed in COLORADO CFI's Mediation Agreement.
WILL MEDIATION HELP WITH THE COLORADO JUDICIAL BRANCH DIVORCE FORM REQUIREMENTS?
Part of your divorce mediation process may include the completion of court-mandated forms. The divorce forms you will need to fill out will largely depend on whether or not you have children. You can visit the Colorado Judicial Branch page for divorce, family matters, and civil unions for detailed instructions on forms you will need to fill out. If you chose, some of these forms can be completed during the mediation process. Contact Colorado CFI to learn more.